Have You Ever Been Lonely . . .

Have you ever been blue? This is a poignant song from yesteryear, composed by Peter De Rose and sung beautifully by Patsy Cline . . . and it raises a deeper concern.

More frequently than we admit, we experience feelings of being lonely, lost, sometimes neglected, and perhaps abandoned on occasions. It’s never a pleasant feeling and has been known to drive some to desperate measures. We’ve all been there, sometimes just aware, perhaps often on the threshold, and maybe even dangerously exposed.

The reality is, for all its traumatic impact, it’s an illusion! It is a response in our material mind that leads us to accept and believe a fundamental lie about who we really are.

The reality is that we are so much more than we usually consider. Like icebergs, the greater part of us, the part that supports our fragile material existence, is in the hidden depths. We are, in fact, ‘Life-bergs’ where just the top fraction of our self is exposed to our senses and the more meaningful and enduring part is out-of-sight, out-of-mind for most of the time.

This is the spiritual component that represents the greater part of our physical awareness and a whole lot more besides. We know it as love, truth, respect, compassion, fairness, plus a whole host of similar occurrences that impact on and direct our experiences. It is far greater than our material awareness, beyond our deliberative reach, yet an integral part of who we really are.

As a spiritual manifestation it is outside of both time and space, these being creations of our material mind, which seeks to control our responses. It is entirely possible that my physical self could be abandoned, or even incarcerated, but never my spirit which represents eight-ninths of me. Like the iceberg, I may not be able to gauge it through my physical senses, but it is nevertheless the most important part of my reality, and I know that it is there, and always will be.

Why then does my material mind attempt to tell me otherwise? Because I’ve accepted the myth of individuality and taken it to the extreme. My physical body is indeed separate from those of others, yet my spirit is boundless, eternal (outside of time), and unlimited in its potential. If I want to find happiness, fulfillment, and true meaning in my life, this, surely, is the part of me that I should focus upon.

There’s little or no point in investing in the minority part that seeks to deceive me by promising comforts based on illusions. It has limited awareness and will certainly perish sometime. The real me?  Well, that’s a different story and well-worth pursuing.

Wisdom is the WAY, the paths being clearly demonstrated in nature, and they’re there for the taking. Happiness lies in the pursuit of fulfillment, so life is a journey, more so than a state or condition. It’s an exciting and rewarding experience that allows no opportunities for disappointment or regret.

Let’s journey together.


  • David E.C. Huggins

    David Huggins has fully enjoyed a lifetime of experience as a military officer and as a behavioural scientist, supporting businesses and similar enterprises, at both organizational and individual levels, through leadership coaching. A contemplative Christian, he is devoted to contributing love, value, comfort, and continuity to this diverse world. He resides in Campbellville, Ontario, with his lovely and talented artist wife, Judy.

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